In my experience, there are 2 types of people. Those who live life on purpose and those who let life happen to them.
I’m someone who lives my life with intention – always thinking about my growth and happiness. BUT for years I let my career happen to me. I thought I had control over everything in my life but my job and career.
It meant that I wasted 15 years in a career that just wasn’t meant for me. I was successful in it but it was me frantically hustling and white knuckling that success. Totally distracted busyness. It was a way for me to feel better about it.
It didn’t work though because I spent A LOT of time criticizing myself – blaming, angry, judgmental about all the things.
I tried to do all the things. Just thinking that if I had a perfect day or completed a task perfectly than it would be all okay.
Spoiler alert, it wasn’t.
I ended up spending a lot of time ruminating and worrying, including many sleepless nights stressing out, annoyed with myself and feeling completely lost.
I had to do something radically different.
I had to slow down and take back control.
1. Purposeful Introspection
The first thing I did was really got familiar with who I was – the ins and outs of my personality, my motivations and my feelings.
It was eye-opening. Incredible. Uncomfortable.
It was purposeful. Which meant that my experience of myself and the world around me shifted and changed.
2. Plan Your Execution
It allowed me to move to the next step which was thinking about how I was going to actually execute on my dreams.
I carved out time in my fulltime job and life as a mom of 2. I focused on small, focused blocks of time to work on my career and my vision for it.
I lived the motto “less is more”.
3. Plan Your Rest
I also learned that proper rest was key. I wanted to stop feeling that frantic energy followed by complete exhaustion. So I planned my rest.
It was intentional. It was pleasurable.
It reset my nervous system and healed my body after years spent in the hustle energy.
4. Love Yourself
The last thing I did was to build my confidence. Years of letting my career just happen to me took its toll on my confidence. I didn’t feel like I was worthy of a career I loved, that it could happen to me, I kept thinking that I should be grateful and not want more. I had to realize that I deserved this and that there was nothing wrong with me for wanting it. So I began a self-gratitude practice.
Every day asking myself: what am I thankful for myself today?
So I ask you today – how do you want to spend your career?
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